Relationship Therapy
Have You Been Dealing With Divorce, Dating Challenges, Or A Toxic Relationship?
Are you trying to heal from a recent breakup and struggling to re-enter the dating world?
Have you recognized unhealthy or dysfunctional patterns in your relationships?
Do you want space to process and explore some of these patterns?
Maybe you’re dealing with the heartbreak of a relationship ending and wondering where to go from here. Or perhaps you’re trying to heal some personal issues so that you can improve your current relationship or enrich your life as a single person. You might be struggling to navigate the dating scene—no matter how hard you try, it feels like you just can’t attract what you want.
Perhaps you find yourself in a situationship where you’re struggling to define your boundaries and expectations, and you want some space to wade through all the uncertainty. As a result, maybe you’re thinking of pursuing relationship therapy.
Your Needs Aren’t Getting Met And Your Relationships Aren’t Reciprocal
Whether your relationship challenges are related to marriage, dating, family, or friendship, a common theme may be a lack of reciprocity. You might go to great lengths to please others even though they don’t do the same for you. Other people may take, take, and take, constantly pushing up against your boundaries and ignoring your needs and desires. This could leave you feeling exhausted, devalued, and unappreciated.
The good news is that you don’t have to continue feeling this way. As the founder of Still Committed Marriage & Couples Therapy, I specialize in helping individuals navigate relationship issues of all kinds. I am confident that I can help you heal from old attachment wounds, gain healthier communication and boundary-setting skills, and ultimately thrive no matter what your relationship status is.
Questions About Relationship Therapy?
Reality Doesn’t Always Match Our Expectations For Relationships
Let’s face it: most of us dream of finding our person. We dream of settling down with someone who meets our needs, shares our values, and loves us exactly how we want to be loved.
Our society tells us that we need a relationship to be happy, which only puts more pressure on us to find the right person. All over movies, TV, and social media, we see happy relationships being glamorized and advertised, and we think: why can’t that be me?
Ironically, this pressure to find the right person often leads to desperation, which makes us settle for the first relationship that presents itself. As a result, many of us end up in relationships and situationships where our needs are not met and our values are not respected. Our fear of being alone drives us to love people who don’t reciprocate, which only makes us more unhappy.
Many People Carry Old Relationship Wounds Into Their Current Relationships
All too often, people engage in the very same patterns and cycles that lead to not having their desires met. Why? The reason is that many people haven’t healed their old attachment injuries, so they end up playing out these attachment injuries in their present relationships.
For instance, let’s say you grew up in a home where it wasn’t okay to show emotions or be vulnerable. As a result, you may have developed a protective façade of strength and hyper-independence. While this façade may have benefited you as a child, it may be holding you back from having authentic connections today.
Therapy is a chance to unlearn the patterns that no longer serve you so that you can cultivate deeper intimacy in your relationships and show up as a more authentic version of yourself.
Relationship Therapy Can Help You Build A Life Of Happiness
Maybe you’re not where you thought you’d be or where you wanted to be in life. That’s okay. After all, where you are is not an indication of where you can be and what you’re capable of.
Relationship therapy can help you challenge negative beliefs and patterns so that you can create a life that aligns with what you truly desire. It can also help you make peace with wherever you are in life, allowing you to find happiness both in and out of relationships.
The beauty of relationship therapy is that it can accommodate a broad spectrum of challenges—I can help you navigate the dating scene, work through friendship issues, and manage marriage and family conflict more effectively. In all these situations, my goal is to empower you to be the best version of yourself no matter what situation you’re in.
What To Expect In Relationship Counseling Sessions
Counseling looks different depending on the relationship issues you’re facing. In general, the first step is identifying the attachment needs that aren’t being met and the cycles of behavior reinforcing your relationship challenges.
I’ll help you explore why you continually end up in relationships that don’t serve you, and I’ll also help you begin the process of self-forgiveness for these experiences. After all, the part of you that now knows better has no right to hold hostage the part of you that did not know better or require better in the past.
In ongoing sessions, you and I can work on repairing attachment wounds, increasing self-trust, and implementing better boundaries. To do so, I will draw from an approach called Emotionally-Focused Therapy, or EFT. The goal of EFT is to understand how your internal processing impacts who you are on the outside.
For example, if you are characterized by people-pleasing, you may continually attract cheaters and personality types that take advantage of your kindness. EFT can help you track this cycle of behavior and interrupt it, enabling you to attract what you want and enjoy healthier, more balanced relationships.
From time to time, I may also utilize mindfulness exercises, narrative therapy, and other approaches that can help you challenge the way you show up in relationships. By the end of our time in relationship therapy, my hope is that you will have created a life where, even if you are single and haven’t found your person, you can still be deeply happy and fulfilled.
You May Have Some Questions About Relationship Therapy…
What if I’m too busy for relationship counseling?
If you want to know what someone values, see how they spend their time. And if your relationships are truly important to you, wouldn’t you rather invest your time in changing them for the better instead of continuing to perpetuate the same old patterns and cycles?
For what it’s worth, I offer flexible scheduling options and provide services both online and in-person. I also provide concierge hours for individuals with hectic schedules. Together, we’ll come up with a treatment plan that works with your busy schedule.
Why should I seek therapy when I can just talk to my friends?
It’s great to have friends—and family—that you can depend on when you need guidance and support. But at the same time, the people in your life may have their biases, and they may also judge certain decisions you make. The benefit of working with a relationship counselor like me is that I am unbiased and seek to create a judgment-free zone; I will hold you accountable and help you make changes to your life, but you won’t have to worry about how I perceive you.
How do I know that you’ll be able to help with my relationship challenges?
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, so I have the professional training to examine unhealthy relationship cycles. I’ve helped clients navigate feelings of heartbreak, guilt, uncertainty, and confusion.
On a more personal level, however, I know how draining it can be when your relationships aren’t fulfilling and you aren’t being loved or nurtured in the way you’d like. I also know what it’s like when you are being loved and nurtured and how much peace and contentment that can bring you.
Today, I am happily married and surrounded by loving and meaningful connections, but it took time and intention to build this kind of life for myself. So wherever you are, know that I’ve stood there before—and I also know the joy that awaits those who are committed to healing.
You Deserve Relationships That Enrich Your Life And Meet Your Needs
If you want to become the best version of yourself so that you can be ready should the right individual come along, I believe that my approach to relationship therapy can help. To get in touch with me, you can call 954-408-8484 or use the contact form to book a free consultation.
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